"From that time on, the world was hers for the reading. She would never be lonely again, never miss the lack intimate friends. Books became her friends and there was one for every mood. There was poetry for quiet companionship. There was adventure when she tired of quiet hours. There would be love stories when she came into adolescence and when she wanted to feel a closeness to someone she could read a biography. On that day when she first knew she could read, she made a vow to read one book a day as long as she lived."
— Betty Smith (A Tree Grows in Brooklyn)
As we create the life of our dreams, we often reach a crossroads where the choices seem to involve the risk of facing the unknown versus the safety and comfort of all that we have come to trust. We may feel like a tightrope walker, carefully teetering along the narrow path to our goals, sometimes feeling that we are doing so without a net. Knowing we have some backup may help us work up the courage to take those first steps, until we are secure in knowing that we have the skills to work without one. But when we live our lives from a place of balance and trust in the universe, we may not see our source of support, but we can know that it is there.
If we refuse to act only if we can see the safety net, we may be allowing the net to become a trap as it creates a barrier between us and the freedom to pursue our goals. Change is inherent in life, so even what we have learned to trust can surprise us at any moment. Remove fear from the equation and then, without even wondering what is going on below, we can devote our full attention to the dream that awaits us.
“My choice to live in Taken in Hand relationship may seem on the surface to be unfeminist. We tried living in marriage without a head of the household: we shared the power equally. I was not happy; my husband was not happy. Now that my husband is the head of the household, we are happier than ever; we feel more loving and more connected. I know that the choice to be Taken in Hand is not for everyone, maybe not even for most, but it definitely is for me and I will not allow my freedom to choose to be restricted by anyone, feminist or sexist. Feminism is not at odds with a Taken In Hand relationship in which the man is the head of the household: I know because I comfortably live with both.”