so yes like all of us I try to compartmentalize my life will post my rules from time to time today here is one of my top ten rules…hang out with me in time you can collect the whole set..lol
Rule…2….You’ll get older but not necessarily wiser
There is an assumption if you listen to the media, look at all the great quotes around wisdom, see the reverence certain cultures have for the elders, that as we get older we will get wiser, but this is not true I am afraid. The real rule of life is we carry on being just as clueless, still make plenty of mistakes. It is just that we make new ones, different ones, more textured ones. We do learn from experience and may not make the same mistakes again, but there is a whole new world of fresh ones just lying around in wait for us to mess up and fall into. The secret is to accept this and not beat yourself up when you do make new ones. The Rule I guess is really this: Be kind to yourself when you do mess things up. Be forgiving and accept that it’s all part of the growing older but no wiser routine.
Looking back, we can always see the mistakes we made but we fail to see the new ones looming up. Wisdom isn’t about not making mistakes , but learning to escape afterward with our dignity and sanity intact.
When we are young, aging seems to be something that happens to, well, old people. But it does happen to us all and we have no choice but to embrace it and roll with it. Whatever we do and however we are, the fact is we are going to get older..don’t you hate when that happens…lol. And this aging process does seem to speed up as we get older.
You can look at it this way-the older you get, the more areas you’ve covered to make mistakes in There will always be new areas of experience where we have no guidelines and where we’ll handle things badly, overreact, get it wrong. And the more flexible we are, the more adventurous, the more life-enhancing, then the more new avenues there will be to explore-and to make mistakes in-of course…lol
As long as we look back and see where we went wrong and resolve not to repeat such mistakes, there is little else we need to do. Remember that this rule of wisdom also applies to everyone around you. They are getting older too. And not any wiser particularly I might add. Once you accept this, you’ll be more forgiving and kinder toward yourself and others.
Finally, yes time does heal, and things do get better as you get older. After all, the more mistakes you’ve made, the less likely that you’ll come up with new ones. The best thing I that if you get a lot of your mistakes over and done with early in life, there will be less to learn the hard way later on. And that is what youth is all about, a chance to make all the mistakes you can and get them out of the way.